Hi there~
This topic is very close to my heart because I’ve experienced it myself before. Feeling heartbroken is never easy. But no matter how painful it is, we cannot stay heartbroken forever. Life must go on, even when it feels impossible at first.
This post is not only about broken relationships. It’s about separation in life , losing someone you love, drifting apart from friends, or any goodbye that hurts deeply. But usually, when we hear the words “move on”, we immediately think about broken relationships, right?
So today, I want to share how I personally moved on from separation in my life , from someone I used to love, friends, and meaningful connections.
If you’ve never experienced this kind of pain before… wow, good for you. Truly.
Without further delay, here are the ways that helped me heal.
1. Cry as Much as You Need
It is okay to cry. Not just a little, cry as much as you need.
I still remember my heartbroken season very clearly. I called my sister and cried for almost two hours. I cried like I had lost everything. And honestly, yes… I lost someone I used to love.
During working hours, I couldn’t hold my sadness anymore. I cried at my desk. Sometimes I hid under my desk during lunch time. Sometimes I went to the toilet just to cry quietly. The pain was real. It felt like my world had ended.
In the early stage of heartbreak, don’t force yourself to be strong. Allow yourself to feel the sadness. Allow yourself to heal naturally.
But one reminder from me, don’t cry in the office (I did it, so I know it’s not a good idea 😅). Your heartbreak is personal. Be strong at work, and when you’re home, cry freely. Don’t “tahan” it. Let it out.
2. Find God
Sometimes, when you are in deep pain, you feel like nobody truly understands you. Friends will comfort you and say things like, “God will prepare someone better for you.” Yes, those words help.
But what helped me the most was finding God.
I read God’s Word, religious books, self-help books, and especially the Bible. Healing is not instant. There is no shortcut. It’s a process.
But slowly, through God, my heart began to heal.
And one day, without realizing it, I was no longer broken.
3. Find Close Friends and Family
During my hardest time, I was very thankful to have friends and family who stayed with me.
My dear friend Maznee, thank you for listening to my tears, my stories, and my heartbreak. I truly appreciate you.
To my sisters and family, I love you so much. You made me realise that I was still deeply loved, even when one love had left. And that realisation saved me.
4. Find a New Passion (or Return to an Old One)
One day, after enough crying and emotional nights, I wrote a note to myself:
“I will never cry over this man again, for the sake of myself and my family.”
From that day, I slowly started to rebuild myself.
I learned photography and truly fell in love with it. Until today, I still love it and continue working on it.
If you can’t find a new passion, go back to what you used to love before the relationship.
Start again. Restart yourself.
5. Work, Work, Work
Work became my biggest distraction from sadness and memories.
I worked a lot. After work, I focused on my blog, planned my writing, learned photography, and created new projects. I kept myself busy as much as I could.
Of course, sometimes during meals or quiet moments, tears still came.
But I always reminded myself of the note I wrote.
Healing takes time.
6. Travel Alone
I’m thankful that my job required me to travel.
During the peak of my heartbreak, I travelled alone to Australia and New Zealand for work. At first, I was scared. I doubted myself.
But I did it.
And I survived.
Travel helped me breathe again. It reminded me that the world is still beautiful, even when your heart is broken.
If you can’t travel far, go somewhere new in your own country. Take time to reconnect with yourself.
7. Fall in Love Again (Only When You’re Ready)
This is the hardest part.
After heartbreak, you’re scared. You think everyone is the same. You’re afraid to be hurt again.
It took me more than three years to finally open my heart again.
I slowly learned to believe in love again, to see beauty in it, and not to be afraid anymore. I didn’t know what would happen, but I tried.
If it works , thank God.
If it doesn’t, learn the lesson and grow stronger.
These 7 tips may not be perfect, but at least they guide you when you’re facing separation in life.
It’s not easy. Truly, it’s not.
But healing is progress.
Sometimes I still remember the good memories and that’s okay. We’re human.
But don’t let memories become walls that block your happiness.
If today you feel despair and sad, remember this:
God still cares for you.
Whatever happens now, God may allow it for your own good.
GOD IS LOVE.
That’s all from me. I hope this helps someone out there who is hurting quietly.
If you have any beautiful tips, feel free to share them in the comments below.
Thank you for reading and visiting my blog.
With love,
Paya 💛
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